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Sometimes I have negative reactions because I have assumed something which isn't true. For example, if Derek asked me on a date to a movie and I assumed we were going to dinner also, but that wasn't really a part of his plan, then I would be super disappointed because I expected something that didn't happen.
I have also had the experience where I called someone a few times, and either didn't get them, or got them at a bad time. After a while I started to assume that I had done something wrong and that they didn't want to talk to me. Naturally I was upset about that!
Luckily, if I can just realize I've made an assumption, I can ask questions instead of assuming. I can easily ask if we are going to dinner, and I eventually asked the person I thought was upset with me if they were, and they were not. It helps me when I'm feeling a bit upset and disgruntled to ask myself what I am believing, and if I really know it is true. If I don't know for sure, then I start asking questions -- unless I chicken out -- but it is really better to know the real truth and not just a real assumption.