Monday, April 19, 2010
Please Pass the Possibilities
We take our troubles to the family table. Heavenly Father is there and lots of brothers and sisters -- some who are expert in fields you may never have even heard of. You sit down and tell Heavenly Father all about the problem and what you have done so far. Then you say "Would you please pass the possibilities?" -- and he does! You are so happy! And then you look more closely at them and realize you don't like either of the possibilities you've been given. You ask if you can exchange them and he says "No, those are good for you, you have to keep them" (It's a little like being handed your two least favorite vegetables to eat). Now you have a choice -- you can leave the table and storm and fuss and get very mad -- forgetting that you now have possibilities when you didn't before. You can stay at the table and keep them and feel a bit sorry for yourself. Or you could stay at the table, keep them, and ask for more possibilities.
Much to your surprise, you are given more! Perhaps Heavenly Father hands them to you directly, or perhaps, he passes them around the table and you get them through your brothers and sisters. When you look at these you are not sure about them but you take them. One possibility, when you try it, ends up making that first possibility you were given easier to handle (like being given cheese sauce to go with that broccoli). One you're not sure about, but it turns out that once you've accepted it, it makes you see clearly what you have gained from that first thing you had to keep. Maybe you even get a possibility that seems a lot like dessert!
I am thankful to have been reminded in a few different ways lately that even if I can't see a possibility for a solution, it doesn't mean that their isn't one. Miracles happen. When I see a dead end, or a giant chasm -- I might be able to look from a different view point and discover that the road continues or that there is a bridge I hadn't seen. When I face a challenge and feel weak, and angry, and worried, I can turn to Heavenly Father and find power, and love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).
In the future I hope to always remember that if a problem seems impossible to solve, I can ask --"Please pass the possibilities!"
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Food Allergies: Part Last
1. Make your own cookbook -- when you find something that works type it up and stick it in your book. It makes looking for recipes at dinnertime less complicated.
2. When you start to get frustrated again remember that there are resources that you might not know about yet and start looking. Sometimes help is a google search away.
3. I read somewhere that it is better to treat an allergy matter of factly. Don't treat your child like they are picked on and they are less likely to think that they are.
4. Finally, be willing to ask questions -- so here is one for you:
Dan one day will go to school, he will have birthday parties to attend and ball games with treats. At some point, no matter how matter of factly I treat his allergy, he is bound to feel a bit picked on because he will be different. Any suggestions on how to help him through that? Most of you won't have had to deal with that before -- but neither have I -- any ideas?
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Dealing With Food Allergies (Part 2)
So what did I do to turn these times back to the relaxing, enjoyable things they used to be? The one thing I do is to call in advance to find out the menu so I'll know what I need to bring. I've forgotten to call before and that is stressful! The other thing that has helped make these events enjoyable again is what others have done and continue to do to help. I have cried tears of gratitude over some of these things when nobody was looking.
When Dan was almost two it was time for the family reunion on my side of the family. It was to be held at my sister Jenny's home where I had seen cousins track food all over the house before. Almost two year olds are not always very discriminating on where they pick up their snacks. We would be having meals there for a couple of days and going to the store or home were not really good options.
This is where my angel Mother and one of my thoughtful sisters came to the rescue. Mom and Jenny planned the entire reunion's meals around what Dan could have. They even thought carefully about snacks and made sure that there were snacks that Dan could have too. I found upon arrival that all of the cousins had been warned to be careful what and where they ate and to make sure Dan didn't have anything without his parents knowing. My nephew Seth who was 6 at the time was particularly vigilant at looking out for Dan and I was very touched by his concern.
On Derek's side of the family we have meals together at least monthly. I have been so thankful for the times my sisters-in-law have read labels in order to make sure the meal was something Dan could eat! Other times, when something not Dan safe is planned, they are thoughtful about letting me know so that I can plan in advance how to handle the meal for Dan. My mother-in-law buys lots of popsicles and Dan has come to think of that as the treat he eats at Grandma's (besides fruit snacks). Even when I bring cake that he can have or cookies, he often opts for a popsicle. It makes me smile when I look and find that several cousins have joined him in having popsicles instead of ice cream.
At church the primary leaders have bought treats that Dan can have so he will be safe and his teachers sometimes call me from the store and read me labels just to be sure. On top of that, a couple of our neighbors who are aware of Dan's allergies went out of their way at Christmas time to bring treats just for Dan (blond oreos and popsicles) because he can't have so many of the goodies we get.
I don't think I was ever so thoughtful for people I knew with food allergies. It seems so surreal that someone can die from eating something that most other people have every day. It's hard to believe that such a thing can be real until you see it -- or experience it yourself! I appreciate what good family members, friends, and neighbors we have had who have gone out of their way to think about it when they don't have to.
So, in dealing with food allergies it is good to plan ahead, and call in advance. It is also good to know great people like we do who help keep my Dan safe and me sane.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Dealing with Food Allergies (Part 1)


Friday, March 19, 2010
Celebrating Easter

Monday, January 11, 2010
A Mystery Solved!

This is the car that my phone has spent a year being lost in. Isn't it nice? The black interior must have done an incredible job of hiding my dark phone. A man from Arizona bought this car. It wasn't until he was looking for his son's phone that he found mine. He found some way to charge my phone enough to find the phone numbers. He left a message on my cell phone, called Derek's phone, and even talked to Trisa before getting in touch with me at home. He's mailing my old phone back to me. When I offered to pay the postage he pointed out that if he could afford to buy a 30 thousand dollar car he could probably afford a couple dollars of postage. He seems to be a very nice person. Now -- what to do with a phone with no cables to charge it with?
Monday, October 19, 2009
Rewind -- Fast Forward
9. Celebrating my birthday while trying not to think that as fast as time is passing I'll be 80 the day after tomorrow.
8. Going on a trip to Alaska with Derek. Brrr. Cold but beautiful and a nice chance to relax. Thanks to Derek's parents for watching the kids again!
7. Going on a trip to KY to my Grandma's funeral (see photo below). I went with my oldest brother and my youngest sister. My parents were there too and I am glad I went. I learned that my Grandma could do the Charleston (a dance). She was amazing in lots of other ways too.

6. Celebrating Dan's 3rd birthday (see blurry picture below). He is three and -- is finally mostly potty trained (which is the other thing I've been doing).

5. Getting the kids ready for school and actually sending them to school. This includes taking Trisa to college. Her blurry picture (below) is her in her apartment. (Sorry I haven't taken photography classes!)



Sunday, June 28, 2009
Nauvoo and St. Louis
This year we had a grand family adventure. We left on May 29th at 4:30 a.m. so that we could all be on the plane by 7:05. We were wearing lovely bright green shirts that made us easy to identify as a "group". On the way home, wearing our bright yellow shirts, people kept asking what group we were with. We were simply a family group.

On the day we left Nauvoo (June 2nd) we went to Carthage Jail to see the place where Joseph Smith and his brother Hyrum were martyred. We arrived a little after a busload of people from Utah. The picture below was taken in the very room where the prophet and his brother were killed. What you can't see from this picture is the other 25 people we were with. I was rather pleased with how reverent the people were -- including our own children. At one point the missionary played a reinactment of the last few minutes of the Prophet's life in the jail. Included was the song "A Poor Wayfaring Man of Grief". You couldn't see the audio device on the mantle next to a clock(the room was dark because it was raining outside). Dan turned to me with amazement and said "Mom, that clock is singing!" and he listened to the song quietly the whole time.




Thursday, June 11, 2009
Connor turns 11





Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Happy Birthday Derek!




See, here he is being happy. That's the best way to be on a happy birthday.
Monday, April 6, 2009
Sweet 16!

The first picture above was taken after her surgery (she had a urachal cyst removed at 2 weeks) and seems to have caught her at a wild moment. She was not good at sleeping when she was a baby but became excellent at it as a toddler. I felt guilty for not seeing her more because she loved her crib so much. She took two two hour naps for quite a while and only quit napping when she was five -- and that was an act of willpower because she decided she was too big.




Tia is a beautiful girl who helps us all to be happy. Yes, she occasionally gets grumpy, but she seems to be quick to recover her good humor. I love Tia. Happy birthday!
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Hello! Hello Again!
I considered talking about the woes of potty training. Today is the first day -- and like I mentioned in Megz blog comments -- the only success so far is that Dan declared that he "loves big boy pants". I keep reminding myself that he'll get the hang of this eventually-- probably not on day one though. In the mean time he is still my huggy boy who also loves smothering my cheeks in smooches.
I am considering talking about desserts. Do you think they are served too often? They sure are tasty but it is nice to find that if I eat fewer my head hurts less often. I've got book club tomorrow -- I'm thinking of serving fruit. Hmm.
What about sickness -- do you think three weeks is long enough to have a cold? I do. Unfortunately colds don't think and this one is sticking around a little longer. Sigh. Fortunately it's mostly down to a tickle that makes me cough.
Books? I read "The Goose Girl" series this week and enjoyed the first and last ones a lot. The middle one not so much.
The inability to make a decision? After considering all of these topics, I have decided that I've written enough. I hope that you are all doing well. So until next time ... Goodbye. Goodbye again!
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Too Busy Being Fabulous
"I'm sorry, I can't help at the school today. I'm too busy."
"Busy doing what?", says the nosy person on the other end of the phone who wants you to tell her the other 75 things on your calendar.
"Too busy being fabulous."
(Stupefied silence)
"Bye" (says you before they get over their stupefecation)
Or maybe we could just teach it to our children. When someone calls and asks for us they can say, "I'm sorry, she/he can't come to the phone right now -- they're too busy being fabulous. May I take a message".
Okay so maybe this is like the 7-8-9 joke that I think is funnier than everyone else.
Here's what I've been up to since Jake's birthday:
Cooking
Doing dishes
Cleaning toilets
driving
doing taxes
heading up a book group
going to various kinds of Dr.'s with my children
paying bills
reading
watching television
talking on the phone
e-mailing
planning a family vacation
doing religious things (you'd think I was evil if I forgot to mention that some of my day is used for this).
quilting
shopping (we have to eat and new babies "need" presents)
giving huggies (not the diapers -- that's what Dan calls hugs)
changing diapers (these are Huggies with a capital H)
cleaning closets
exercising
hurting my ankle
catching a cold
talking to my children and husband
getting my hair done
Yawn.
I am sure you have all been equally as busy with more or less important things. I am sure, because you are you, that you were fabulous the whole time.