I've been listening to books from the online library, and I really enjoyed one by Dr. Henry Cloud called 9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life. The first of those nine things was "Dig it Up".
He talks about taking a close look inside ourselves to look for "treasures". These might be dreams, imaginings, wishes, talents, and things we would enjoy. Dr. Cloud says that some of these things have become hidden from us because of past experiences. Perhaps we tried something once, and got a negative response, so we determined to never try again! It is possible that we also hide our heart's desire because we want to please the people we know and we don't think they will approve, or we are afraid of being laughed at.
The author quoted King Solomon as saying "Above all else, guard your heart" (which Dr. Cloud defined as our dreams). Those good treasures were likely planted there by God. Do we really want to give them up?
If we dig up hurt while digging for treasure then it is time to forgive and move on. Being unwilling to forgive hurts us more than anyone else, and may keep us from becoming all that we could be.
What have I dug up? Well, admittedly, I'm still digging :-). I do puppets because years ago I dug up the memory of how much I enjoyed making my stuffed animals talk. I write poetry despite a discouraging experience with a teacher in grade school. I think it is worth digging through our memories to get rid of hurt, and to potentially find a dream that, with attention, can become reality.
Tuesday, April 28, 2020
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Paying Attention to the Right Things
Today I was reading my library book, "Mindfulness for Beginners" by Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD, who teaches Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction. There were a couple of things that I read that I thought it would be good to think about.
The author was talking about some of the patients he works with, and how he tries to get them to see that, "...as long as you are breathing there is more right with you than wrong with you, no matter what is wrong."
How is that possible? Well, to illustrate he teaches that instead of focusing on all that is wrong and needs to be fixed, we should "systematically pour energy in the form of attention into what is right with us."
Here are the examples he gave of some of the things we can focus on. He said we should focus on the fact that, "we have a body in the first place, that we are breathing, that we can sense the world in various ways, that the mind generates thoughts and emotions seemingly endlessly, that we have the capacity for kindness toward ourselves and others, that we can be patient and trusting."
This reminded me of one of my favorite quotes from a previous general conference.
*Photo by Simon Wilkes on Unsplash
The author was talking about some of the patients he works with, and how he tries to get them to see that, "...as long as you are breathing there is more right with you than wrong with you, no matter what is wrong."
How is that possible? Well, to illustrate he teaches that instead of focusing on all that is wrong and needs to be fixed, we should "systematically pour energy in the form of attention into what is right with us."
Here are the examples he gave of some of the things we can focus on. He said we should focus on the fact that, "we have a body in the first place, that we are breathing, that we can sense the world in various ways, that the mind generates thoughts and emotions seemingly endlessly, that we have the capacity for kindness toward ourselves and others, that we can be patient and trusting."
This reminded me of one of my favorite quotes from a previous general conference.
“The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives.” Russell M. NelsonThis quote has been helpful to me. What I focus on has a big affect on how I feel, and how happy I am.
*Photo by Simon Wilkes on Unsplash
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Odds and Ends
Tia and Chewy while some of us watched a movie. |
The girls made a cheese bunny that we ate. |
Jake, Derek, Me, Kayli, Trisa and Dan on Sunday after "church". |
Monday, April 20, 2020
Maple Canyon on a Stormy Saturday
Dan kept climbing up. The rocks were wet and slippery so I was working hard at not worrying. Thankfully he was fine. |
I assure you that the ice looked awesome in person. It's not so impressive in the picture. |
I wish I had taken more of these two because this one is blurry! It's cute blurry, but would have been better if it wasn't! Connor's hair is fun, and he forgot a jacket. It was really quite chilly! |
I tried to get Jake and Kayli to turn around. Jake said, "I'll pass". Teddy and Chewy came too. |
This is Dan. Up again. It was farther up than this picture looks. |
I read my story in the van while the rest of the family hiked in a little farther and then ended up coming back in the hail and rain. Still, it was good to have an adventure on a Saturday! |
On the way there and back there were sheep, sheep everywhere! We would roll down the windows and smell the stink, and smile at the chorus of baas ,and ooooo and ah at the little lambs. |
Sunday, April 19, 2020
The Laundry Room Project
I'm not sure what overcame me, but I looked at the laundry room on Thursday and, even though I didn't really feel great, decided I didn't like the color anymore and I should paint it. It's a little room. It shouldn't take long -- right?
I don't remember how many hours I worked on the room on Thursday. Almost immediately upon getting ready to paint, I hurt myself by pinching my hand in the roller. Ouch! I'm still wearing a bandaid to keep it from hurting. I made lots of noises dropping things or groaning over some mistake I made. The girls yelled to see if I was alright a few times. I stopped working at dinner time. The back wall was mostly done, I had used the remaining light blue paint, which covered the 3 walls once, and then I mixed another blue with white and painted again.
Friday I was sure it wouldn't take long to finish, but I kept fixing little things and switching colors of paint and cleaning paint brushes. I think it took from 8 a.m. until about 1 p.m. or so to declared myself finished.
Derek helped me put shelves back up today. We added one that is easier for me to reach, and so I just put silly pictures on the top. I've never decorated a laundry room before!
I didn't remember to take a before picture until the shelves were off the wall and almost all of the stuff was removed. |
Friday I was sure it wouldn't take long to finish, but I kept fixing little things and switching colors of paint and cleaning paint brushes. I think it took from 8 a.m. until about 1 p.m. or so to declared myself finished.
Sorry. This one's blurry. Oops! |
I love that I don't have to climb up on the dryer to fetch a new bottle of detergent anymore! YAY! |
Saturday, April 18, 2020
Staying Safe From Covid19: Can Princess Choose the Right?
Thursday, April 9, 2020
Productive Social Distancing
I haven't spent a lot of time reading lately, and almost no time playing instruments. What I have done is projects. These have given me something to do while the boys work on school so that I don't stress out over their school as much. My projects have given me a chance to use some of my rustier skills, and to develop new ones. Here are some of the things that I've been spending time on.
This was the beginning of me putting my table back together. |
This is me seeing what it would look like together, but the top isn't attached here because I hadn't painted the checker board. |
It turned out awesome! I still want to spray a polyurethane coat or two on the top to protect it, but it seems hard to ask someone to help me move it to a better painting location! |
This wasn't really a project, except surrounding it with rocks and putting nice dirt on top. This is my pretty bush that is getting ready to bloom. |
What you probably can't see in this picture is that, in the dirt at the bottom of the picture pea plants and radishes are growing. They are just barely poking through! |
Here are the yellow chairs turned blue. I'm actually not done with them, but I got really, really tired of spray painting! |
Wednesday, April 8, 2020
Tia Turns 27!
On April 5th we had a birthday celebration for Tia. On the 6th she actually had her birthday. I did not end up with all of the pictures since I didn't take them all -- but I have some!
Tia with her first present. |
I've never seen anyone so happy to get exercise bands before! |
Tia is opening a picture of her present. It arrived on her birthday and Jake and I took it to her on the day after her birthday. |
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