The Invisible Marriage Manual

This is a picture of Derek and me from maybe
2008.  I couldn't take a picture of our
invisible marriage manual because
it's invisible!!

*While Derek and I are off celebrating our 31st anniversary, blogger will kindly be automatically posting things I wrote about marriage -- with one non marriage one in the middle to celebrate cinco de mayo!

When two people get married, they each come with their own belief of what a good marriage looks like, who is responsible for what, and how exactly things should be done.

It is easy to make the mistake of assuming that our spouse is operating by the same "rules" as we are -- because some of our unwritten, unspoken rules do happen to match.  It is only when we run up against something in our invisible marriage manual that doesn't align with what is in our spouses invisible marriage manual that we have problems.

If we haven't talked about something and agreed on it, then there isn't a rule, and we need to communicate kindly, and with open minds, to come to an agreement on how things will work for us.  There are multiple right ways to do things, and no marriage will look exactly the same as another because we are all unique.
Maybe something I wrote will help you to make the one true marriage manual for your own marriage:-) and if not that -- then I hope they are at least interesting!

*The idea for this post came from a podcast by Jody Moore.